Men and women, I could really use some advice. Put yourself in my shoes for a minute.?
Alright, I am a female who has been in a good relationship with my boyfriend "Jeff" for three years. There is a girl who used to be in my life (we were very close friends at a time). She had a scary-bad childhood, and therefore, was never mentally stable. She was always very depressed, she couldnt (and still cant) not cheat on her boyfriends, she's very easy, shes manipulative, a pathological liar and so on. Yeah, i realize that was a poor choice of friend on my part, like i said, shes very manipulative. Anyway, our friendship ended 2 years (ish) ago. She pulled psycho shit, real wierd stuff most people wouldnt even think to do. Last time i interacted with her was when she took me and "Jeff" to court because she thought I drew/wrote on a calendar she made and hung up of her taking her clothes off. So heres my problem.... She started calling Jeff to meet up and talk 2 months ago (one of our mutual friends passed away). I was sorta cool with that, she had the right to talk to him about this tragedy. They did that talk, i bit my tounge and didn't complain. Now, she calls and texts him about every other day to hang out. Like, even his close friends don't contact him as much as this chick does. Sometimes they meet up, usually they just text about hanging out and going to the bars together soon. Whenever they chill, she picks him up in her car, its always just the two of them, and they go smoke a jay and talk for a couple hours (according to jeff, im not there). Point is, they are friends again, and it really hurts me. It's really making me mad at him, i feel betrayed. Nobody has done meaner things to me than this girl. It makes me not want to hang with him, kiss him, which was the worst feeling after 3 good years. Whats worse is i know this girl is capable of fucked up things. Anyway, we got in an argument about it, I told him i really wasnt ok with these one on one gettogethers they had, and i really wasnt ok with her texting and calling 4 times a week. He told me he wasnt going to stop chilling with her because he has the right to be friends with whoever he wants (and i see he has a point). But this is really hurting me, and i think he should respect me on that, im not asking him to abandon his best friend here, they JUST got back in touch with each other. Its to the point where its always gonna hurt me when he does this, and it's going to affect our relationship. So, what should happen? I dont want to break up over this, but we are at a standstill and neither of us are budging. He says i dont trust him and he has the right to chill with her. I say I'm only asking you to stay away from these "dates" with this one person, out of respect for me.
